World Suicide Prevention Day – WSPD 2020

World Suicide Prevention day is an annual awareness day that takes place every 10th September. This annual awareness day is aimed to get everyone around the world to speak up and talk about suicide to show people that recovery IS possible.

Organisations, charities and communities all take World Suicide Prevention Day seriously and take advantage of the day to rally together to help spread awareness of how we can help create a world where fewer people die from suicide.

Every year World Suicide Prevention Day hold a different theme and point of focus in the hopes of drawing more people to their cause and to help bring light to a specific aspect of suicide. What ever the theme is that year, the goal is always still the same, to provide worldwide commitment and action to prevent suicide.

World Suicide Prevention Day (WSPD) is hosted by International Association For Suicide Prevention (or for short – IASP) who are dedicated to:

Preventing Suicidal Behaviour

Alleviating its effects

Providing a forum for academics, mental health professionals, crisis workers, volunteers and suicide survivors

Founded by the late Professor Erwin Ringel and Dr. Norman Farberow in 1960, IASP now includes professionals and volunteers from more than fifty different countries. IASP is a Non-Governmental Organisation covered with suicide prevention.

If you would like to learn more about International Association For Suicide Prevention or find out how you can help why not check out their website: IASP

So why is it so important to speak out about suicide?


– Well, just in 2018, it was recorded that in the UK and Republic of Ireland, more than 6,800 people died of suicide.

sAmaritans-suicide-stats-report

In the Uk, men are 3x more likely to die by suicide than women are and that stems from a number of things but the biggest one is the lack of normalising our emotions, especially for our men. Little boys are taught to be tough from a really young age, they are taught that cry makes you weak, that speaking out about your emotions and what’s floating around inside your head as something only girls do.

Men have been made to feel as though they don’t get to experience emotions, they aren’t allowed to let them show. But that’s a load of poppycock. You aren’t made any less of man just because you have shown people that you too are human and experience emotions, worries and troubles just like everyone else.

There is still massive amounts of terrible stigma surrounded men, surrounding people with mental health and those who are suicidal, that World Suicide Prevention Day hopes to help over come.

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

It’s okay to speak up and out

It’s okay to struggle

It’s okay to feel lost, helpless, alone, sad, angry

and it’s okay to tell someone about how you feel

As long as you fight back, as long as you speak up, as long as you don’t let those emotions and thoughts overwhelm you into a situation that can never been reverse, can never be undone.

According to Samaritans Suicide Stats Report from December 2019:

There were 6,859 suicides in the UK and Republic of Ireland.
• 6,507 suicides were registered in the UK and 352
occurred in the Republic of Ireland.
• The suicide rate in Northern Ireland is the highest in the UK –
where men aged 25-29 have the highest suicide rate.
• The highest suicide rate in the UK, and England, is among men aged 45-49.
• The highest suicide rate in Wales is among men aged 40-44.
• The highest suicide rate in the Republic of Ireland is among men aged 55-64.
• The highest rate in Scotland is among men aged 35-44.
• There has been a significant increase in suicide in
the UK, the first time since 2013 – this appears to be
driven by an increase in the male suicide rate.
• In the UK, suicide rates among young people have been
increasing in recent years. The suicide rate for young
females is now at its highest rate on record.
• In the UK men remain three times more likely to take their own lives
than women, and in the Republic of Ireland four times more likely.
• Suicide has continued to fall in both males and
females in the Republic of Ireland.

If you want to find out more about the suicide stats report then head over to the Samaritans Website: Samaritans.org or click her to head directly to their stats report simply CLICK HERE.

If you or anyone you know is struggling right now then please reach out to someone, a friend, an internet friend, a family member, even a stranger. If you feel comfortable enough you can feel free to reach out to me, all conversations with me are private and confidential. I can offer advice, a listening ear and friendship.

Every life we lose to suicide is a tragedy, one we all have hopes in preventing.

Or you can check out these incredible websites that dedicate their time and resources to helping those who need it:

Samaritans

or Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org

CALM

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – for men
Call 0800 58 58 58 – 5pm to midnight every day
Visit the webchat page

Papyrus

Papyrus – for people under 35
Call 0800 068 41 41 – Monday to Friday 9am to 10pm, weekends and bank holidays 2pm to 10pm
Text 07860 039967
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org

ChildLine

Childline – for children and young people under 19
Call 0800 1111 – the number will not show up on your phone bill

Contact your local GP.

or you can call 111 out of hours – they will help you find the support and help you need

Just know you aren’t alone, you aren’t the only one who has had these feelings and there are people out there who would be devastated and broken should anything happen to you. Even when it doesn’t feel like anyone cares, life is complicated and we get caught up in the moments and that means sometimes we let things and people slide. We have to remind ourselves that that doesn’t me we aren’t cared for, that they only want our time and attention when it suits them but simply that life has directed them away and then back to you again.

Everyone has a time and place in your life, if you are finding yourself lonely then perhaps that’s life’s way of trying to direct you into looking after yourself, paying attention to yourself, start a new journey that only you can take or learning to accept and love yourself. There is a different perspective to every single situation the challenging part is trying to change our own perspectives to get a more positive out look.

20 Quotes to motivate you to read/write!

There’s nothing I love than a good quote to help get the motivation going or the feelings expressed. I thought I’d create just a fun little post showing all my favourite quotes (these ones aren’t written by me, perhaps one day I’ll share mine. For now, I’ll share the brilliance of others.

Quotes that’ll motivate you to read/write:

(1). “Read a thousand books, and your words will flow like a river.” ~ Lisa See. This quote I keep writing on a piece of paper that keep tucked away in my most used notebook. Being a writing and an aspiring author, I feel as though this is encouraging you to read it’s also inspiring you to write. The more you read, the more you’ll write!

(2). “The first draft is just you telling yourself the story.” ~ Terry Partchett. Again, another quote I love that inspires writers to keep on writing and it’s something I can relate to so much.

(3). “You can always edit a bad page. You can’t edit a blank page.”~ Jodie Picoult. How truer could words be? A blank page does no one any good, fill it words even at first it seems messy, you can edit and fix it later.

(4). “You don’t start out writing good stuff. You start out writing crap & thinking its good stuff, and then gradually you get better at it. That’s why I say one of the most valuable traits is persistence.” ~Octavia E. Butler. This quote is as good as it is long and something that I keep beside my laptop when researching/ writing a blog post. This one keeps me blogging, reminding me I will get better at it if I keep at it.

(5). “Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” This one I like because it inspires outer activity other than sitting there getting writer’s block (something I’ve been getting a bit of lately).

(6). “A room without Books is like a body without a soul.” ~ Marcus Tuilius Cicero. I must agree with Marcus here, you can’t have a happy looking room without some books.

(7). “She reads books like one would breathe air, to fill up and live.” ~ Annie Dillard. Oh, how I love to read this quote!

(8). “I like cups of tea and reading books and poetry and old people things.” ~ Bindi Irwin. Don’t we all?

(9). “Some books you read. Some books you enjoy. But some books just swallow you up heart and soul.” ~ Joanne Harris. I’ve come across my fair share of books like these and they forever hold a special place in my heart.

(10). “The world was her’s for the reading.” ~ Betty Smith. This hands down have to be the best one for me so far. It’s simple yet empowering!

(11). “Once you learn to read, you will be forever free.” ~ Frederick Douglass. I think everyone should go out of their way to read a book at least once a week. Even if you only read one chapter, through the entire week. Because it really can be freeing.

(12). “Keep reading. It’s one of the most marvellous adventures that anyone can have.” ~ Lloyd Alexander. So true!

(13). “A book is a gift you can open again and again.” ~ Garrison Keillor. I’ve often thought this myself, so if anyone is ever struggling on gifts to buy me…HINT HINT!

(14). “If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.” ~ Haruki Murakami.

(15). “I don’t believe in the kind of magic in my books. But I do believe something very magical can happen when you read a good book.” ~ J. K Rowling.

(16). “Reading is a means of thinking with another person’s mind: it forces you to stretch your own.” ~ Charles Scribner .Jr .

(17). “I was born with a reading list I will never finish.” ~ Maud Casey. This speaks to me on a deeper level.

(18). “Good books don’t give up all their secrets at once.” ~ Stephen King.

(19). “The journey of a lifetime starts with the turning of a page.”

(20). “That’s the thing about books. They let you travel without moving your feet.” ~ Jhumpa Lahirl.

I hope you have enjoyed reading through these quotes, and please comment on your favourite down below. I would love to read through them.

How Tilly Became Kitt-Katt

If you know me, then you more than likely know I own 3 cats, one of which I have had for six years now. I got him sometime in September 2013 and I’ve honestly never been so connected to an animal before.

I hadn’t gone out and bought Kitt nor had I gone to the rescue shelter to get him either. I had actually stumbled upon him free, off one of my sister’s friends parents. It had all happened by chance. A ‘Meant to be’ moment.

My mum had come home from picking the kids up from school and I overheard her and my sister talking about something that sparked my interest and so I started to listen in a little more to their conversation. What I was hearing was that one of my sister’s friends mum had asked her to ask our mum if she wanted her kitten. She had had a young boy running around the house at the time and he kept putting him in the washing machine and playing far too rough with the kitten and was looking to re-home her.

My mum was originally saying no to it when I ask if I could have it instead. (Now I should also mention that before this kitten I had originally already had a female kitten that I had to give up in order for my little sister to keep her kitten at the time. We had just gotten two kittens and then moved house a month or two after getting them and was told we were only allowed one pet). So with that in mind, I did play on that factor a little as well as pointing out that I was good to pay for it and had shown from my other kitten how willing I was to look after one. After a night of talking about it, my mum agreed to talk to the woman the following day about the kitten.

A week later my mum walked through the door with a little kitten bundled up in a paw printed blanket in her arms. She told me she was five months old and her name was Tilly. I didn’t want to confuse her any more than she probably already was and so although I didn’t like the name I made the decision to keep her name as Tilly so she at least had something familiar. As soon as my eyes laid eyes on her I knew she was meant to be my cat. She had such pretty, wide and fearful eyes it just made me want to wrap her up and never let the poor thing go.

For a week she pretty much stayed in the “spare” room under the table chairs in a corner. She’d let me pet her, give her a fuss, groom her, feed her but she wouldn’t let anyone else get close to her. For a little while, she was so skittish, she would attack people when scared, which at that point was pretty much all the time. And she was a little too skinny to be healthy, my guess was that she was just too scared/anxious/stressed to really eat anything at the time and only nibbled to just get by. But she had no problem eating food once I placed it under the table with her, for a few weeks I would feed her an extra pouch a day in the hopes of getting her to a healthier weight.

We slowly introduced her to my sister’s cat, Sox, who must have been one of the most chilled out cats I have ever come across even to this day and I have met A LOT of cats. But for some reason, the two never got along. We thought our biggest problem would be getting them to stop “mating” until we got Tilly spayed. But that was never once an issue, instead, we were constantly telling them off for fighting with one another.

Sox and Kitt-Katt (Not Coexisting)

Around 5-6 months go by and I’m in my room getting ready to see my boyfriend when I turned around to see Tilly cleaning her private area…except I noticed something pink and instantly thought something was wrong with her and so I got a closer look only to get one heck of a shock! It was a little winky!

I instantly ran downstairs to tell my mum, at first she didn’t believe a word I said but came up to see anyway because she figures I wouldn’t react over nothing, as soon as she checked her…him? She turned to me and said, “I think you’re right.”

The problem was he was so small and had such long fur, we couldn’t really tell and so we picked up my sister’s cat placed them side by side looking at their behinds to see if they both had balls and they did, my Tilly wasn’t a she but a he! I felt so bad and so shocked but the first things out of my mouth were, “I’m changing his name!”

I couldn’t come up with a name right away and was bouncing between a few when one night I was sat talking to my mum while she was eating a kit-Kat bar and she made a joke about my love for chocolate and said that I loved chocolate so much I should just name him Kit-kat.

Something there and then just clicked in my head. It sounded right and I really, really liked the sound of Kit and so I decided to give him a double-barrelled name, Kitt-Katt. It took him less than a week to respond to his new name and honestly I feel like he response more to Kitt than he ever did to Tilly.

Six years later he still responds to his new name, he’s become a dad to 3 kittens and He learnt to coexist with another male cat in the house and spends his time either sleeping outside or sleeping next to me while I read a book or he’s playing with his kittens. I hope you have enjoyed this read and please don’t forget to Like, share and comment!